Being Direct

Last night in a conversation with an old friend, I made a statement about my old dog. One most people would think, but would not say out loud. Well most people that is... not me.  I am known for saying what I think. Things to me are black or white. I am in or out. I don't play in the gray and there is no middle line to walk. I make a decision and I am off and running.

So you can imagine my surprise when my friend said "wow, I can't believe you just said that, it is so refreshing to hear what is really on someone's mind".  You can imagine my surprise when I realized so many people are saying one thing but thinking another. My question is why? Why are people self denying how they feel, what they think or more importantly their ability to show the independent self and their own thought process?

I am known by most as being "blunt, direct, to the point", honestly I don't understand why more of us are not, not only would it save time but miscommunication. 

Miscommunication - umm there is a thought and a byproduct of someone NOT wanting to hurt another person's feelings.  Of course all of us have had hurt feelings, but really why?  We wanted something the other was not willing to give. Is that our fault or their fault? 

I like to think if everyone was to the point, not mean and malicious, but speaks from the heart without the flower spray on the shit. Then society could move on at a pace that we no longer need to build up a wall to protect ourselves but instead are able to self discovery through truth and wisdom.

What can being truthful hurt?